And the worst part is that you discover that this whole approach tends to attract people who aren’t good for you – and you end up repeating the same dissatisfying patterns of the past.
, psychotherapist Ken Page takes that wisdom and drills into it, helping us learn not just to love ourselves in a facile sense, but to love, respect, and use as an emotional compass our deepest selves: the places of our greatest vulnerabilities.
It’s really at the core of a fulfilling life, which is why we spend SO much time and energy pursuing it.
However, the world of dating can often feel like a soul-sucking waste of time.
What Page calls our “Core Gifts.”“Core Gifts are not the same as talents or skills,” Page writes.
Counterintuitively, he explains,“until we understand them, our Core Gifts are often the very qualities we are most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to fix or hide because they make us feel so vulnerable.
At the end of the day, this soulless approach to dating doesn't lead to love, it leads to insecurity and desperation."Among the best manuals for succeeding in finding and keeping love we have seen.Ken Page shows you, with many illustrations and exercises, how to prepare for the ultimate relationship with someone who is just right for you." —Harville Hendrix, Ph D, and Helen La Kelly Hunt, Ph D, authors of Keeping the Love You Find and Making Marriage Simple"If you are truly ready for big, heart-opening, lasting romantic love, this workshop-in-a book offers the proven step-by-step process.The journey begins with letting go of most of what you’ve learned about how to “impress,” “win over,” “attract,” or “seduce” your life-mate.The problem with all of the typical strategies is that they tend to be based on a psychology that tells you that being a successful dater means being inauthentic or only leading with your “most desirable” traits. by to finally “win” the dating game and get the man or woman you want.